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10-15% IF you went above and beyond or performed particularly well. It's a tip, I am not your employer. I used to be a huge tipper until I realized just how fucked that whole system is. Also, NEVER PRE-TIP. That is insane!
Pre-tip? I think that's called a bribe
That's what tips are. A bribe for your next visit
Complain all you want, but not tipping is straight up taking money from someone who is getting paid $5 an hour. Complain to ownership, write your congressman and state legislators, but not tipping only punishes someone who is barely scrapping by.
So, dear reader, notice how whenever defenders of tipping come along, it’s always the same story.
Oh boohoo my poor minimum wage (which is pegged to the same minimum wage as non-tipped workers in states where most people live).
Ever wonder why it’s always about the minimum wage and never about how much money they make?
Any server with 2 brain cells clears $40 an hour in untaxed cash wages every shift.
They never report it on their taxes, and yet they will cry about their poor wittle wage at every opportunity expecting people that make half their salary to tip them 100% for rudely dropping off a plate once and never coming back, making you wait 20 minutes to close a check.
Notice the pattern. Remember how I was right next time.
Ask them if they’d rather abolish tipping next time. Notice how none of them say “yes”.
I'm 100% on board with ending tipping, i am just saying that stiffing your server won't do anything to end it.
It will when servers refuse to work those jobs
I'm excited for the nation wide free public housing you're referencing. When will it be complete?
People don't want to be servers. They are there because they have no other options
Yeah, if you want to act your conscience be my guest, don't patronize the restaurant that does this. Don't eat their food then stiff the server.
Sorry you're getting downvoted. The internet doesn't understand how to solve problems and would instead like for individual people who have no power in this to be shafted. In an ideal world, what people are saying to you would work. This isn't an ideal world.
Don't give business to these companies. EZ
Employer is obligated to make up the difference so that perosn gets at least min wage.
So this statement is factually incorrect
I just had a long conversation with my sister, a restaurant server, yesterday.
I remarked that the value the restaurant gets from her didn't go down because she did a good job. Why should they get to pay her less when she over performs?
I'm not sure she got it.
A couple issues with this take every time it's mentioned.
They're making on average of a good amount, but most of that work is for shit pay no one would ever consider doing at that pay rate. It is very good money during that busy time, but anyone that's ever worked food service knows busy times like that are an insane amount of work in comparison.
Also tipping is for actual table service. If you just hand me some food I'm not tipping you for handing me food.
I recently ordered some parts for an e-vape online. At the payment page it asked for a tip. I was in disbelief. (I didn't take a screenshot, but in retrospect I should have.)
No services rendered, no food being made, nobody personally delivering it to my house. But it still wanted a tip, with the explanation that it was "to support our team!"
Where to even begin...
Your opinion is a result of class warfare propaganda, to get working class people arguing with each other. Direct your anger to the employer.
I’m tired of this excuse. These people took the job knowing what the pay rate was, and are demanding the customer pay their salary directly rather than the employer like virtually any other conventional job does. Customers have had it, they’re being told to give employees raises along with rising food costs, even at businesses that don’t do a damn thing for the customer except maybe hand them a to-go box. 20% for that? F no. Grow a spine and demand real pay, people have had it. IDK how I can travel almost any modern place else in the world, pay for a good meal, and only have to leave the approximation of $1 or so for appreciation of the service, but in America I pay for the food and a separate charge for the employee’s “pay”.
Thrn stop going to restaurants that expect a tip. Don't go to a restaurant and stiff your server. I spent 6 months last year living on $300 a week because people weren't tipping at the bar i was working at. The bar is still open, but the new bartender is in the exact same position.
You don't take a job at a restaurant or a bar because your life is doing great. You are there because you have no other options.
I don’t have a problem with tipping. I have a problem with restauranteurs taking the profits and the customer being asked for more and more tips. I can’t help people’s life situations, and I’m sure they aren’t all down on their luck any more than someone working retail. Yeah, I avoid places that expect big tips, so the servers get no tip at all instead of some tip.
Those same people only getting paid 5 an hour have literally fought and complained against any attempts to change the law and bring a proper wage. Why? Because they make more in tips than they would hourly. Whole system is messed up.
Not tipping is not giving my money away for nothing.
Tipping culture creates unwarranted expectations and removes obligations from employers.
I've stopped tipping decades ago and won't look back.
Its unfortunately a catch 22 though because continuing to tip kinda enables it to keep happening if everyone stopped tipping then places would likely have to pay a decent wage in order to get people to work as even if you’re extremely desperate for money its still not really worth it to work for tipped minimum wage with no tips also im not sure if it applies to all places but if your compensation + tips falls below the federal minimim wage the company must pay you the difference if I am not mistaken
yeah I basically stopped going to restaurants because is screwed either way. It actually used to be something we would do but the norm became wierd and like so many things nowadays it became just drop out of participation.
Yeah, I'm not defending tipping in the US, but not tipping is only screwing over the server. You don't end up working at a restaurant because you love it, you are there because your life is a mess and it's closest thing you can get to a stable job. If you don't want to tip, then don't go out to eat.
Back in October i had a guy "leave a tip" that said "Kamala bullshit" because he was mad his double of jack and coke cost $8. I don't set the prices, i also think it's bullshit, but i was weeknight bartending because I couldnt find any other job.
yeah but that is what I meant. We did not want to keep tipping at the old norm if it was under tipping so we just stopped being in the system. I have seen the standard go from 10% to 15% to 20% and thats when we stopped. Through most of it 15 was sorta standard and 10 was like I don't want to stiff you but our experience was not the best and 20 was like omg you were great. stiffing was like I wish I had not come out and this was a horrible crazy experience. Im really not sure the what would actually have to happen for that as it never came up but maybe doing two nazi salutes or something might cause it.
In WA everyone is paid at least 16 an hour, over 20 in Seattle and in many high COL areas.
Believe it nor not, most people do not live in Washington.
Point being these rules are local...
In my state 2.25 is not the rule, their base pay is above federal minimum wage
Yes. If you can't afford to leave a decent tip, then don't get the service.
If there is a magical amount of money you want to receive so you don't get pissed off at me, just make that the price.
I'm paying
lol, where can I find this magical money?
What's pre-tipping? A tip before you've even had service?
Its what you have to do these days if you want your uber to show up in a reasonable amount of time.
Or your pizza to not have been carried on its side, as I learned. That was actually when I quit getting any food out. Tipping is a broken system, and fast food shouldn't be eaten anyway.
Yup. Delivery services (like DoorDash or Domino's) and the like tend to do it. They also show your tip to the person. You end up getting service based on your tip instead of the other way around.
Pre-tipping is how rub and tug's work. For real.
In Vegas start with a large pre tip for your waitress. That gets you drunk pretty quickly
Friends were confused how I was wasted when they were barely tipsy
I don't think 10-15% has been considered a reasonable tip for "above and beyond" since the 80s. Most will take that as an insult worse than not tipping, funnily enough.
As for pre-tips, they (intentionally?) design the checkout process such that if there's a pre-tip, there is no post-tip. It's basically a "don't spit in my burger" fee.