I wasn't sure what you meant, so I decided to check your profile and see if I could find some examples you responded to... And I learned a lot about you in the process. You sent a single person a lot of "why are you angry" comments. You get into a LOT of arguments on politics subreddits, and even defended Kyle Rittenhouse. You noted that you need to tell people you're left wing, because the things you say convince them you're not.

At a certain point, the reason why so see so many angry people might be that you're the one pissing them off. Or at the very least, you're seeking them out.

https://kbin.run/m/politics@lemmy.world/t/602314/Kyle-Rittenhouse-criticized-Donald-Trump-So-conservatives-said-he-s-transgender (ctrl-f the name)

This you? Specifically: this you, arguing in a way that instantly, grossly obviously outs you as a troll. Not only the intensely weird way you're defending a murderer, but the intensely weird ways you're going about it. I'd elaborate, but don't feel like educating trolls.

So there's the answer to your " genuine " question. Of course, you remain free to ignore this terrible unprovoked attack from my side and pretend I'm quivering with rage, if that makes you feel better. :)

An offline friend and I have this hypothesis that usually, the further left or the further right one becomes, the more closed minded and reactionary they become when presented with an opposing idea.

It’s difficult to live in the grey and to keep an open mind. I think this has become so much harder in the era of social media.

That said, there are absolutely some core beliefs of mine that I would be highly resistant to ever budge on, so maybe you’re encountering some of those folks on theirs.

Shrug it off. Keep going. Be you.

I think a lot of it has to do with an* impending sense of anomie. Something someone said to me once that I'd have done well to heed earlier: Don't take what people say personally, especially if they mean it personally. The idea being it's probably more about themselves than you.

are you on *.ml?

that's their whole game.

block .ml and most of the people deliberately picking fights should up and vanish.

i say that as very rarely experiencing what you're describing, especially compared to other social media platforms

Because people are mainlining propaganda en masse and it's rotting their brains. Maybe fediverse users are more abrasive idk, but the adversarial tone in online discourse nowadays is hardly unique to the platform.

Self selection I assume. You need a certain mindset to go the long mile of actively being on lemmy, and that mostly overlaps with an hypercritical attitude.

Or maybe that's just me.

I would say the majority of mine have been fine and even some i thought might go off the rails had a nice back and forth where I even learned a bit. I mean I have encountered reactionary and mean stuff but does not seem super often to me. kbin meltdown sorta messed up my account thoush so I have not really got my feed going in mbin.

Me waiting for someone arguing there are no angry guys here.

There do seem to be a small number of people here who have no middle gears, don't there?

There are people who is always angry about everything, not just in Lemmy but in everyday life also. Just keep you mouth shut and observe. Don't take them so serious.

I think some people use the internet to vent after a long day at work. I've dinner it at times and have had to stop myself from forming an unhealthy habit

Haters gonna hate.

Without looking into a detailed history of what you might have said that spurt it, Pay attention to the instances that it's coming from, a lot of times you will notice that those users are coming from specific instances. I noticed this as well and there's some instances that I haven't blocked fully yet but I am debating.

It is very toxic, but if you don't let it get to you it's just a simple block and move on. I don't see as much toxicity on the platform as I did a few months ago by doing this method, and there are quite a bit of people that do take the time to give constructive feedback and have a civil conversation.

My experience overall on the fediverse is overall positive.

Hidden text because is off topic from ops post >! and while this is a little off topic of your post I would also encourage people to turn off your scores(the upvote/downvote system). Most third-party clients give you the ability to do it and I have had them turned off myself basically since my second month mark. It helps remove a lot of the hive mind / populous bias/ Argumentum ad populum(this is a link it's just spoiler hides it) that occurs by being able to see the scores. Due to the fact that the system works as a whole by judging the score in the sorting system you don't lose the ability to see the more popular stuff towards the top, so really unless you care about how many people are liking your posts, there is no cons to disabling!<

You will need to block a bunch of people when you first join, or move to an instance that has already done that for you.

... or use a platform that automatically hides comments that get lots of downvotes. I looked in your posting history - the comments you remarked about being angry didn't even show up for me.

... and filter out US politics & Israel politics. You'll need an app/platform that lets you define filters, tho.

Well adjusted people with fulfilling lives don't have a ton of time for online forums.

Lots of the residents of online spaces have been trained by algorithms that reward "hot takes" spurring lots of reactions.