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[–] [email protected] 127 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Just as an FYI, most states have programs that will fund a disability lawyer to assist you with your disability claim. Most of the time the lawyers will be paid partly through your claim if it is successful and it's usually free if it is not.

Also do not get discouraged if your claim is initially denied, in my state it's basically an open secret that your first claim gets automatically denied to discourage people from actually getting benefits. With disability, it's all about persistence, documentation, and filing as soon as you can. Even if you get denied for years, when it is successful your claim will be back dated to the date of your initial filling.

Not a lawyer, but I work in a field where most all my patients are on disability, and I have had to help my parents file in an extremely conservative state.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 15 hours ago

(Australia). My claim was denied the first time after TWO YEARS, then it was approved the second time after about 2 months. Go figure.

[–] [email protected] 35 points 1 month ago

Disability lawyers only get paid by a certain max percentage of the backpay after you win the case. There is no upfront cost to it. Try going for non profit lawyers as the others tend to just not give a fuck. In my experience at least.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Seems weird that they're willing to pay for a lawyer to help you but not to pay their own employees to help you, which is why you need the lawyer.

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[–] [email protected] 85 points 1 month ago

So the system is working as intended.

[–] [email protected] 70 points 1 month ago

Pretty much the equivalent of asking a paraplegic to prove their disability by running.

[–] [email protected] 59 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It's exhausting to be disabled

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

So draining it barely leaves energy for posting about it.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

You must be an absolute hoot at parties.....

[–] [email protected] 42 points 1 month ago

I got my partner to fill it in for me. After all, they're the ones suffering from it the most.

[–] [email protected] 42 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I successfully submitted for a short term disability claim for an anxiety condition that arose from my ADHD. A few weeks later I was told that there wouldn't be a role for me to return to once I was recovered. IE in an attempt to avoid a nasty law suit they aren't firing me until I'm off short term disability.

Talk about setting up adverse conditions for recovery!

[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 month ago

I'm pretty sure that could be used against them, especially if they told you in writing 🤔

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago

That's why unions are important

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

That's exactly what they did to my wife last year.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 month ago (3 children)

And being able to fill out the form is considered by the government to be proof of a neurotypical mind.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

Joseph Heller himself couldn't have written it better.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago
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[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 month ago (1 children)

If you file for adhd and don’t complete the form, it should be granted.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Just think about what you're saying and the abuse that system would suffer.

On the contrary to her question, what the fuck did she expect?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

We’re all just indulging in some self-deprecating humor lmao. Not being serious!

[–] Sat 23 points 1 month ago (5 children)

Serious question: What exactly is the issue here? If you do not fill the form out, it gets rejected. Isn't that the expected outcome?

[–] [email protected] 59 points 1 month ago (6 children)

The point is that ADHD is an executive function disorder. There's a lot of inertia to overcome before starting a task for someone with this disorder. It's not like she didn't know it was urgent or important, that actually probably played right into why she couldn't do it

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I hope she doesn’t have to cook dinner.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Why are you here?

If you are just going to post stupid, negative comments that don't add to the conversation or is at least funny, then you shouldn't be on Lemmy at all.

Add, don't subtract. Try to at least pretend you are a grownup.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 month ago

Why are you here?

Because it hit /all and ableists can't help being assholes.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 month ago (1 children)

... Yeah, Uber eats is another way people with problems like this get taken advantage of. Weird that you feel the need to be snarky about it

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 month ago

True of course, but ADHD can be associated with behaviors that make it very hard for someone afflicted to complete such an intimidating and important form. It's a bit of a catch 22.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I think the issue, although it's being raised in meme-style rather than with a straightforward argument, is that asking somebody with ADHD to fill out a long, complex form is as reasonable as asking somebody on crutches to sashay up the stairs to the tenth floor to file their claim.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Peoples' point is it's basically like

"Ah yes, I see you claim you lost the use of your legs. That's okay we've got you. Just ascend the 58 stairs to the main office to drop off your form and..."

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago

This happened to my wife a decade or so ago. She has cerebral palsy and struggles to walk. We arrive at the examination center responsible for assessing her needs for continued social welfare. The exam office was on the 4th floor and the lift didn't work. The building receptionist shrugged. We had to go through a lengthy appeal process after they claimed we never turned up for the appointment.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Mental stuff needs an in-person evaluation. I know ADHD isn't necessarily this bad but stuff like PTSD, severe depression, and Bi-Polar absolutely suffer from the same problem. The system is set up to handle physical disabilities but not really mental ones.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Mental stuff needs an in-person evaluation.

Not having met me hasn't stopped them from denying me twice.

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 month ago

I've lost out on probably more than $10k in grants and bursaries for my education because of this same problem.

It's honestly so infuriating.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

My guess is they expected a filled out form. But I see the Catch 22.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago

My guess is they hoped for what they got, so that they wouldn't have to pay for any support.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Filling out the ADHD form proves you must not have ADHD. Also, not filling out the form proves you don't have it.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Once I had to fill some forms for the gouvernement and I just went to their office and found a wonderfully helpful lady who helped me to do it and reassured me when I would freak out because their questions were not logical or not as closed as they thought. It was an eye opener and I've used the technique ever since.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Neurotypicals seem to suffer from the curse of knowledge far more than others. The worst part is, they're neither aware of it, nor do they want to be aware of it.

They don't realize how many assumptions they're making about what you know, and that the information they're assuming you have is the same information that they are working from.

For the uninitiated, the curse of knowledge is a concept where, by knowing the context of a thing, you understand it, but others do not because they don't have the context of that thing. It's a curse because the speaker with the curse of knowledge assumes that others have that context, often unaware that context needs to be provided for that thing to be understood.

The easiest demonstration of this I've seen is, try having someone guess a song by tapping it out on a table or something. More than 90% of the time they will not be able to guess what song you're portraying because they lack the context. As soon as you mention the song, assuming the listener has heard the song before, they will be able to hear the association between your taps and the song, but not before being told.

This phenomenon happens a lot, and it's the worst on government anything because often you are not provided any reference to look up what is intended for the question, form, information or whatever that you're being asked to provide, you just need to provide it, but you lack the context to know what they even mean.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I would suggest that NT’s suffer from the curse of assumption and they’re unaware of it. It they read a question like we’re discussing they assume only one aspect of it. Whereas a non-NT like adhd would see multiple angles and answers to the question all at once and suffer the frustration of having to decipher what the asker really means - hence the au/adhd person’s need to over-explain an answer to be sure to corral the information specifically to the question they think is being asked.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Ah the classic catch-22. Proving you have a disability, proves you are not disabled. Be glad though, it means you are not going to the farms.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago (3 children)

If you can successful get disability on your own you are not disabled enough to need it.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 month ago (5 children)

This is basically an argument they use to deny people IRL

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 month ago (5 children)

how the hell is THAT what you take away from this post?
How do you choose to blame the people with the disability for getting help instead of the system designed to make the process of getting help as difficult as possible?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Poe's law. You missed the implied \s.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

Then they're doing sarcasm wrong.

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