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[–] [email protected] 49 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

top 1.9% of only fans

This is a complete aside, but does anyone feel like putting "top 2%" sounds better than "1.9"?

Like when I hear top 2 percent I think wow this person is somewhere between 1.5 and 2% but 1.9 makes me think 1.90 to 1.99.

Maybe it's just me.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Completely agree, the mystery makes me rank them higher than knowing

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

That’s the idea behind significant figures in high school science

1.9 is more precise because it has 2 significant figures

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

I was going to say. I see so many touting this. Does OF tell everyone they're top 1.9%?

[–] [email protected] 23 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Aren’t they already being topped by their employers?

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Lemmy won't let me reply to your DM. It says you don't exist. Which is kinda funny, since your name is Owl and Lemmy is being like "Who?" 🤣

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

Lemmy is mocking me 🙈

[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 weeks ago

I will never tip a delivery driver. But he can fuck my butt i guess

[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)
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[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

That is dom. Top means to penetrate the other

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

As little more than just the tip 😘

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago

Hi! Peter here to explain the mene. Since all the other answers are wrong, here's the actual answer:

Top means the person who penetrates the other (the bottom). The term originates from gay sex, since there it can be very important who is penetrating who. But it can also be applied to other sex (not just homosexual cis men). In the meme above, the implication would be that l Lois uses a strap-on or other kind of dildo to penetrate the delivery driver.

Top often, but not always goes hand-in-hand with domination (dom/sub). Hence the dominatrix-like outfit Lois is putting on.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Not just gay sex, any sex with power exchange. Can also include completely heterosexual mild BDSM.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

Maybe it’s me being old but it was never outside of gay sex when I was young

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

top means the one who penetrates the other. What you're describing is a dom

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

I hate this heteronormative bullshit that topping is the same as domming

[–] [email protected] 38 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

It doesn’t bother me one bit if people want to use a word to mean something different to them. It changes nothing in my relationships what they do or say.

What I do hate is your complaining about a group of people based on their sexuality. Seems so bitter.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

"heteronormative" doesn’t mean "it’s the fault of straight people" are you serious

if you don’t know a word, you can just look it up yknow

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

You're the only person here saying that.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

and it’s only you who’s saying that ryedaft was "complaining about a group of people based on sexuality"

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

Oh please, it's clearly obvious there is nothing heteronormative about hetero people using topping to mean something else. Peoples having a different meaning is not the same as enforcing themselves as the default, it's not even tangentially related.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

Fwiw, I'm hetero and having a girl on top feels like they have more, if not all, control.

I never subscribed to homosexual dichotomy of tops and bottoms. Long ago, I learnt that there were "active" and "passive" roles.

I guess it's generational. Like "old" terms that sound antique or even "wrong".

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

"heteronormative" doesn’t mean "it’s the fault of straight people" are you serious

But does "heteronormative bullshit" imply that?

What if they'd said "I'm tired of this homosexual bullshit that glitter goes everywhere?"

That definitely reads as "I believe it's the fault of the queer people" to me, do you believe otherwise?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (4 children)

Heteronormative != heterosexual

I fail to see any issue with the post (like fucking everyone associates topping with dom that doesn't mean it has to be, and the image works), but it's decidedly a complaint about social norms rather than a group. Even if I think it's not a valid complaint because wtf does it have to do with heteronormativity.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Wait, can you not be a hetero top or a hetero dom?

I... don't see how it is heteronormative to use an image that evokes sexual acts... to... imply a sexual interpretation of a typo.

Its... just a way to use a more SFW, recognizable meme.

Like, they could have used ... whats her name, Anhka, from that Animal Crossing porn anim that went viral a few years back, very obviously topping someone... but that would have been a lot more explicit.

Lois is also like, in the act of suiting up, with a non plussed, unenthusiastic expression, implying that ... there is a job-like aspect to this, yet another dumb charade/performance demanded by society to keep participating in it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Give her a strap on and it's fine

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

So your stance actually is that a woman in a dominatrix suit is always propogating heteronormativity... unless she's wearing a strapon... while could be construed as being used for penetrating either a man or a woman or anyone else.

So in your mind, BDSM is heteronormative unless it explicity is made clear that it is not.

That would mean that in your mind, pegging is not heteronormative, even if it is going on between a heterosexual couple.... even though a man being pegged very, very much goes against the general social view of how sex between a man and a woman works or should work.

... You have a very different understanding of what heteromormativity is and means than I do.

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Like, I get the idea that pegging is not heteronormative... but you also seem to think that BDSM... is heteronormative, unless its made very explicitly clear that it is even farther outside the 'normal' realm, with specificity.

BDSM, to the point of owning a dominatrix suit, is absolutely not the standard norm.

It thus is not heteronormative.

We're at about 1 in 5 adults in the US that have tried BDSM once in their lifetimes. It is becoming more popular, but 1 in 5 is still not 'the norm', that'd be at least half.

I can't actually find stats on... how regularly people engage in BDSM as a recurring part of their sex lives, vs people who have just experimented with it... but it is definitionally less than 1 out of 5, likely considerably less.

But then you've also got all the stats on how people who do engage in BDSM are actually much more likely than the general population to actually identify as LGBTQ+ or engage in non-hetero sex... so yeah, thats just another way that BDSM in general just is not heteronormative.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

I think the heteronormativity comes from the idea that men are always the ones both doing the penetrating and taking charge in the bedroom lol

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Education would be more effective than complaining.

As a straight, isn't all this is missing for "topping" a strap-on? As in the "top" is usually doing the penetrating?

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Its actually somewhat confusing.

Sometimes, to some people... topping just means you are literally, physically on top of them.

Sometimes, it means you are doing the physical penetrating.

Sometimes, top/bottom are the same as dom/sub... to mean authoritative vs submissive...

But you have terms like power bottom, and service top.

A power bottom is physically underneath the partner, but doing almost all the work, and is often also in the authority position.

A service top is physically on top, and/or doing most of the strenuous/penetrative physical work... but they are actually submissive, subervient to the other partner, who is authoritatively directing all their actions.

The vocab for all this is still quite varied and usually only standardizes fully amongst geographically constrained areas, as you would expect with what is basically a set of slang terms.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Excellent answer.

I'd argue that the outfit in the meme is generally considered a Dom outfit which is what triggers the start of this thread.

Although inaccurate it makes the point for the joke. A TOP image would be much more vulgar and hard to find a clean image for.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

Exactly.

You can get away with a ... relatively low nudity depiction of a person in a bondage suit.

This also just generally conveys 'sexually curious / active.'

Whereas an actual, more literal depiction of topping someone would essentially by definition be so explicit as to be so blunt that ... it isn't as humorous, because your brain doesn't have to do any work to 'get' the joke.

Not to mention it would probably be censored, and thus far less people would see it.

I dunno, maybe someone can, or has come up with a ... 'help me step-bro, I'm stuck in the washing machine!' ... type of image.

Maybe a cowboy or cowgirl riding a bucking horse ... would be sufficiently understandable visual metaphor?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Then, there's most of the rest of the world where neither of those words mean anything, heteronormative or otherwise. I guess have heard of topping pot plants, though...

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Synonyms are so hetero

lol wtf

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago

Topping is the act of being the one penetrating their partner, dominating is taking control. They aren't necessarily the same thing

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Second user's name: "Warm beer is a war crime"

Klok fans: "Now listen here you tyfusleijer"

contextKlok is a Dutch beer, where a common meme is "een man van cultuur drinkt zijn Klok op kamertemperatuur," i.e. a man of culture drinks their Klok at room temperature.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 weeks ago

Happy cake day, banana!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Beer in the US is too cold. That is the crime here.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 weeks ago

Here I am, putting my beer in the freezer because I forgot to resupply the beers in the fridge. In fact, I'll go stock up right now. Thanks.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

The colder it is the less you can taste it.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 weeks ago

shit, thanks. I was being a bottom

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 weeks ago

The safe word is "banana."

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