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I figured a close stereotype for men, would be that they should all be farmers. The thing is, there are under two million farmers in the US as of 2023. So statistically, an equivalent occupation/role should have a larger number.

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[–] [email protected] 73 points 10 months ago (7 children)

Men shouldn't be allowed near children that aren't their own. It's rarely stated but regularly assumed.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago (2 children)

This one fucking sucks... it's especially awful for us beard havers.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago

I think it is more of the mustache only crowd that really faces a stigma about being good with kids.

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[–] [email protected] 62 points 10 months ago (3 children)

"Women should be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen" transcribes to "Men should be shirtless and mentally ill in the garage."

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[–] [email protected] 52 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Men should swallow their feelings and go break their bodies and mind for a paycheck. Then die younger because of it.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago

We're looking for fake answers, not real ones.

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[–] [email protected] 46 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

Protectors & providers

It's one of the worst kind of inequality which women don't (or rarely) ever examine and question if it's compatible with modern ideas

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[–] [email protected] 42 points 10 months ago (2 children)

That men should be able to fix things and be mechanically inclined.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Yup, I have an essential tremor and fucking hate that one. I don't mind strength based tasks... but if I try and screw in a light bulb I'll probably crush it accidentally... don't even get me started on appliances like blenders and shit - in the best case scenario I'll brick the device... but I'll probably injur myself.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I mean no offense at all, and feel free not to answer, but how do you type?

Is it like a special keyboard, voice to text, or do I just completely misunderstand what you mean?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago (1 children)

At the moment it comes and goes with stress, as my dad aged it became more and more common but I can usually manage to type (with a lot of autocorrect help and backspace). It also varies with hand posture and that sort of clamping grip really makes me unsteady (for this reason scrubing potatoes is actually extremely difficult for me).

It's a neurological thing - almost certainly - so I only know what I've observed.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 months ago (3 children)

Unpopular opinion: We should. Obviously as someone who builds and fixes things for living I'm a little biased but I do look down on men that lack any handyman skills (and so do many women). I think doing things like being able to change a tire on a car is about the bare minimum a man should know how to do. I'll cut you some slack if you don't own a car or a licence.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 months ago

Yeah I think men and women should all have some basic level of repair skills. I feel like somewhere along the line everyone got too afraid to break things or hurt themselves.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 months ago (13 children)

Why a man though - why not just a person?

What is it that means that men ought to be able to do those things, but not women?

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 months ago

I’m a little biased but I do look down on men that lack any handyman skills

That is a lot biased to the point that you can't even see that other men's lives may have put them in a position of not learning those things or even wanting to learn those things. It's great that you know how to do those things but just because someone has a penis doesn't mean they have to learn how to be handy. That doesn't make them any less of a man, just different from you.

[–] [email protected] 41 points 10 months ago

Men should all be (the sole) breadwinners.

[–] [email protected] 33 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Men should be climbing the corporate ladder

[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago (4 children)

Aside... as a technical expert, can I just mention that the fact that we envision it as a "corporate ladder" is the biggest fucking load of bullshit?

I can confidently state that I'm much more competent than my fucking CEO.

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[–] [email protected] 32 points 10 months ago

In my area it would be something like "Men should go to war".

[–] [email protected] 29 points 10 months ago (5 children)

Men bring home enough bacon for the whole household to live off comfortably.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 10 months ago

And go off to die in wars.

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 10 months ago

Doing manual labor in general, not just farming. Or being in charge at work

[–] [email protected] 27 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

That every man has to be a breadearner, a handyman and be able to physically defend their home&family.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

Anecdotal, being from Louisiana, this is what I've been pressured with my entire life.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 10 months ago

Men should be the breadwinners, men should be the one to ask the woman out, men should pay for the first date, men have to be the ones who propose, men should be 6 feet tall... It sucks especially if you're an introvert, shy, and nobody ever explained this shit to you as a teenager. Therapy ftw.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 10 months ago

Men not being allowed to be emotionally expressive has led to so many mental health problems...

[–] [email protected] 23 points 10 months ago

Have to be a raging bull of testosterone and manly interests while also being a round the clock worker to be a breadwinner and also being a father figure to any children in your life on demand

[–] [email protected] 21 points 10 months ago (1 children)

The most direct I can think of is that men should be the sole breadwinner of their family, and that if his wife earns more than him (or even has a job at all) then that's some kind of failing on his part.

There are many other similar stereotypes. For example:

That men have an obligation to defend their/their significant other's 'honor' with violence.

That men shouldn't cry or otherwise show strong emotion under nearly any circumstance.

Men shouldn't want to interact with children, especially other people's kids.

I can go on all day.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 10 months ago (1 children)

If you're not useful, you're a burden.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 10 months ago (2 children)

“Men should all love football.”

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 10 months ago (1 children)

No wait I know the answer to this one.... If you have a penis, you should be able to use tools competently and perform basic maintenance and repairs. I learned this just by watching cartoons and tv when I was a child so I taught myself all that stuff just because I thought you were assumed to. I now take $75+ per hour from men who cant figure out how a screwdriver works. I am virtual husband to many women who married paper shufflers who can't even tighten a loose doorknob screw.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago (5 children)

If you have a penis, you should be able to use tools competently and perform basic maintenance and repairs.

I don't think a penis is required. I personally think that every human being should know basic maintenance and repair skills.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 10 months ago (2 children)

A man should get violent and angry and protective when someone hits on his woman.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 months ago

We should enjoy violence

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago (2 children)

It’s a man’s job to grill.

I mostly let my girlfriend do that. I trust her way more with food than I trust myself.

I usually just get the fire started.

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