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[–] [email protected] 55 points 1 month ago (1 children)

What do you mean "anyone else"? I was in the shower with you. I feel so ignored!

[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Can you guys keep it down? I'm trying to sleep on the loo

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Geezus Richard, I told you to use the down stairs bog when we were showering! FFS

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

Richard is a really big dick!

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 month ago (2 children)

No, because the monsters would get me.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Monsters don't eat wet human

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

All humans are wet on the inside

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

but the ones wet on the outside are icky ok.

im a picky eater dont judge.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

Same. As a horror movie junkie, there are an abundance of shower scenarios that would pop into my head whilst in the dark.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I split the difference. Shower with a candle in the room. Transparent shower curtain.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

This is how all horror scenes start with white people and their candles in the bathroom.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 month ago (3 children)

i'm autistic and have quite the sensibilities, including to light. taking a shower is something that has always been extremely calming to me, it shuts a lot of my brain down, including, sometimes, my anxiety disorder part. taking a shower in the dark is the closest thing to a state of pure inner bliss i can reach easily.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Also autistic, I very much enjoy baths in darkness or very low light.

Poor man's isolation tank.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

exactly! :D

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I have ADHD and it's similar for me. What also helps is background rain noise. Did you try that? Im using cozy time on my PC as it also can play additional relaxing music and has a pomodoro timer.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

it's not enough for me. i have heavy rain currently and while it does calm me down, it's only one sense that is being stimulated. it's really the water running all over me that does the trick and the light of lights makes it that much easier to just disappear in my mind.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

I wish autism made me sensible :p

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Only when it’s voluntary. I once had the power go out while I was in the shower. My thirty-something ass instantly aged into an octogenarian convinced he was breaking a hip on the way to open the bathroom door.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Oh yeah.

My bathroom light is motion activated. The sensor doesn't see into the shower, so if I don't wave at it every few minutes the light goes out.

A lot of the time I don't bother. Super relaxing.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago

I would love to try but intrusive thought won't let...

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago

Showering in the dead of night? Yes, that's relaxing. Showering in the dead of night with all the bathroom lights off? Few things would unsettle me more.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago

It's good for forehead tension headaches also. I like to sit and stare straight into the stream of water in the dark, tends to help overload nerve input to ignore pain bit better.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Not complete darkness. I got a nice warm led night light (these ones, love em) just bright enough that I can see what I'm doing. But yeah going spa mode after a long cold day is very nice

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago

Opposite. I built a second temporary shower under the window (lined the wall with clear plastic for visiting rellies that can't step into the tub) - it's nice to shower in the sunshine.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Everyday day after work. I have a "nightlight" that I turn on. Other that that all my showers are in darkness. I think it's a way for me to decompress after being bombarded by artificial light for 10+ throughout my work day. Took me until I was 35 to realize how sensitive i was to light, especially artificial

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

I do it when I have a really bad hangover

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

I do it if I'm taking a shower just before bed.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I knew a chick who would also put on blind fold sleep mask and earplugs... they seemed to like it but I've never tried

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

It’s like their own sensory deprivation chamber

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

I shall attempt

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

Only if I bring my life size bathclown with me with the chefs knife attachment and realistic glowing eyes.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

Yeah, I do that. I also soak in the tub with ears submerged for audio blunting as well. Very sensory-deprivation. Quite relaxing.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

yes, I'm blind without my glasses anyway

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

It's my favorite way to shower. I don't know if it's my ADHD or what, but it's super relaxing, one of the few times I can actually feel that sensation.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I do it everyday actually! Nice to see someone else doing it too

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

To me it would be weirdly slippy and fally and weird.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

But imagine the surprise of whoever finds you! Really makes it worth it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Not so much now because I get sleepy. But I used to love it. Probably will again some day.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

I do this if I take one before bed. Relaxes me and also helps my eyes acclimate to the darkness

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

An old friend told me he did that to cope with dysphoria.

Once I was in the shower with the lights on and I slipped. When I got up I somehow snagged my arm on the faucet and made a deep gash.

Now every time I think of trying it, I imagine what kind of violent shit I'd do to myself if I slipped and couldn't see.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

Yes, I thought I was the only one! I don't remember when or why I started doing it, but I'm so used to it by now that it feels weird if I don't turn the lights off.

Recently I got a new showerhead and it has a dim light built-in and uses the water flow for power. So no complete darkness anymore but the dim light doesn't bother me and it's actually useful.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

Haven’t gotten to do it in ages since my current bathroom has no windows but showering in the late afternoon or just at sunset with just the smallest bit of sunlight peeking through the (closed!) blinds is relaxing, especially in the summer.

Being clean and having wet hair while the summer day’s heat starts to settle and your day winds down is magic.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

When I tried that, I felt weird, like, my eyes are open but it doesn't help.

After a while, it feels like the abyss looks you in the eyes