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Love is decision

Love is reason

Not to downplay the value of infatuation, I'd say! Free drugs're always nice, and infatuation is an especially exquisite drug in and of itself! Its relative rarity also adds to its refinement!

All that's needed is an understanding that it is just that, a drug, and like with every other drug, the high inevitably fades.

I also think people tend to forget that infatuation can be reignited! It's not necessarily an easy process, nor is it an unpleasant one! Taking a nice trip somewhere romantic (thoroughly recommend a beach resort during late autumn if you're partial to cold, the sparsity of people and melancholy of the time and place have done wonders so far!), a cozy date, a tantalising movie - basically any shared experience can lead to it, as long as it's the right one for everyone involved!

Love and infatuation can feed into each other with a little bit of patience and curiosity!

My belief is that emotional immaturity is the natural state of humanity. Without guidance, some wise people will reach maturity, but that's really a small subset of the population, and the vast majority of people will not make this growth.

The vast majority of people do things because that's what they've always known; it takes special effort to question why you do what you do. Saying that these people are emotionally immature may be true, but I don't think that the cause is that people have emotionally immature parents. People have to be specifically taught to value rationality and wisdom over vibes and feelings, and without this concerted effort, most people will simply be emotionally immature.

What is emotional maturity?

I get what you mean, stress for the cortisol, anxiety for the adrenaline type deal. And, yeah, I do agree that such a temperament/character/neurochemical inclination seeks these situations for different reasons.

But I've also seen plenty of cases where it was just based on a belief, they were convinced that a relationship reached a breaking point once the chemical ecstasy started to die down. The people holding it were obviously suffering because of it (though not fully aware of this causation) and genuinely wanted to find a fix. Unfortunately, they went from disappointment to disappointment when the inevitable kept happening.

It's also why I only have questions, there are layers upon layers of nuance with subjects like this...

Again, it is well within your prerogative to not accept such behaviour! I honestly view it as yet another traumatic maladaptation and treat it as such - even though it's causally not their fault that they believe/behave thusly, it is their responsibility to keep it in check.

But I'll be straight with you, I think you may be underestimating yourself and overestimating the average person. Critical Thinking really isn't innate, it's a skill. A skill which a lot (I'd even go as far as to say a large majority) of people thoroughly lack, because it is a skill which needs training from very early on, as it builds upon itself. I don't think there's a general educational schema on Earth at the moment which in any way truly encourages Critical Thinking, if there ever has been one. From what I've seen, it tends to come into play way later and in very specific fields of study, which means there's a lot of catching up to do by that point, so the horizon it affects tends to remain narrow.

Not to mention the utterly insidious and imperceptible nature of ideological corruption. It's incredibly hard to see the brainwashing if one's been going through it since before one started forming coherent throughts. It permeates even the subconscious.

I'm not trying to play the perfect being over here, I've seen myself being as dumb as a rock at times and I know that I have a llllot of learning left in front of me. But realistically speaking, just because we're dumb doesn't mean others aren't even dumber...

Genitalia. Meaning the genders and sexualitiesb of the people are not what determines their behaviour

When the outhouse is directly next to a theme park

It's a greentext, so take with a grain of salt.

Part of building a relationship is getting to know one another more deeply. And maybe you get to a point in a relationship where you don't actually like the person you're with anymore.

If you're only seeing someone a couple hours a day for a couple days a week, and the person is always trying to impress you, then the impression you get isn't going to be the same as you get living with that person for months at a time.

If you started dating in high school as immature teenagers and then you develop at different speeds, maybe the person you're with doesn't seem as dashing or sophisticated as they did a few years ago. Maybe the person starts drinking or works long hours or is constantly stressed out, and you don't want to be around that anymore.

Or maybe you date someone for a few months and then you're just... done. You did that thing, you're bored, you want a new thing. Going steady isn't the same as getting married. When you're young, lots of people look incredibly hot and your hormones will regularly outrun your common sense.

Breaking up sucks. But the biggest mistake you can make as a young person is thinking the puppy love you feel on the first date is going to last forever. If you don't want this kind of miserable heartbreak, the best advice is to not be so committed early on. Date lots of people. Don't fixate on a single person just because you get some attention in response. Break up early and break up often. Worry about settling down when you're older.