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He wakes me at 5am every day because he slams stuff really loud. He doesn't even have work early he just wake up at 5am and stays home all day.

Should I do revenge on him and slamm stuff at 12 am when I go to sleep

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[–] [email protected] 43 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Invest in a $2 pair of ear plugs, apartments tend to be like that. Most likely the person is not doing it intentionally, or if they are then the best revenge you can get is to tell them how well you selpt in spite of their futile efforts to annoy you.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 50 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Are you yelling because they're in right now?

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

NO, HE SAID HE HAS EARPLUGS!

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

NO HE SAID HE WANTS HIS PAIR OF UGGS

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

I LIKE PUGS BUT PREFER BEAGLES!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

Maybe they mistook ear for butt. And the latter just slipped in.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (2 children)

that's a cool solution you just made up and posted on the internet for fun because you're pretending to be a person

try sleeping in ear plugs and see how your ear holes feel

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

I dont use plugs any more but i used to, i found a sleep mask that has headphone speakers built in playing an audiobook or white noise is ideal for me.

They make different kinds, some might be more comfortable than others. I am indeed a real person, who has experience sleeping in very loud environments.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

This is a fairly common thing people actually do. I always have earplugs and a sleep mask in my bag when I'm traveling.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

well i wear ear plugs a lot for work and I can't do it. plus, your brain raises the perceived volume of sounds after just a few minutes and so while you are preventing damage from loud sounds, the isolation effect isn't really that significant

[–] [email protected] 34 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (3 children)
[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Escalation sucks when the other side has little to lose.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

What do I have to lose . And it's not like I have a choice either, I can't see afford to move I'm trapped here in a cycle of suffering and literal hell

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 week ago (2 children)

First, it won't stop the problem.

Second, you stupidly posted about it online meaning it's a planned thing. He might be accidentally loud. You're planning harassment. Guess who the cops will arrest.

He's a person. Talk to him nicely. He may have no idea at all that he's bothering people, so don't come in hot like a crazy person.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I had no idea our 40lb Boston Terrier/Beagle mix walking around was so loud for our downstairs neighbors. After they told us, we invested in some rugs to try and dampen the sound.

Of course, they would get into screaming matches at 3am with each other until the cops were called - then the cops would ring our buzzer because they refused to answer.

I do not miss apartment living.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

don't listen to him. you need to show dominance. take a crap in the guy's mouth

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 week ago (1 children)

What's your relationship with your neighbor? I'd say try to communicate with them before turning this into one of those stereotypical neighbor feuds.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

Ist really bad he has always hated me

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 week ago (2 children)

What type of neighbor? House, townhouse, apartment?

What exactly is he banging? Garbage bins, Kitchen Cabinets, Dresser, Closet?

There are solutions that don't involve being an asshole back to them in some of those situations.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 week ago

Yeah indeed he could just try asking nicely 😀

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Apsrmtent, and I would say cabinets and doors

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You could go order something that helps with that and ask them nicely to use them.

Something like these are cheap and easy: https://www.amazon.ca/Scotch-SP951-NA-Self-Stick-Rubber-Bumper/dp/B01N74P0QB/

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 week ago

Don't escalate, he is home all day and has more time to escalate.

Talk nicely, make a friend, move are all good options.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

try talking to him and approaching him with respect and kindness….

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

he’s probably hard of hearing

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

If you rent, get your landlord to talk with them. It's likely that they simply don't know how loud they are. Otherwise you could write a nicely worded letter.

If all diplomatic options are exhausted, then I would hang up some speakers so they're facing into the wall; then go ham with the heaviest, bassiest songs I have at all times that your local by-laws allow that also overlap with the times they would be sleeping.

I did this with a particularly shitty neighbour and it apparently solved the issue (though maybe they were finally evicted). They would be up until 3-4 am (sometimes later) literally blasting music and I have to leave for work by 830am; so, I started blasting some dubstep into walls at 8am.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

My speakers broke because I am in a third world country and I got jbl speakers from some Romanian website which just broke for some reason and they had a 2 year warranty but apparently they just don't want to fix them so now I'm poor and can't buy speakers again why is life so sad

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago

Based on OP's comments I believe this is some trolling attempt

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Definitely don't do any revenge before just asking him nicely, and then maybe not so nicely; if that fails, go for it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

He is very mean always I think he's a piece of crap and a loser asshole

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I would ask nicely first before becoming aggressive. What’s going on in your head and how you perceive events might totally be different than him. I used to get up at 3am because I liked it. Tried to be quiet but people are imperfect.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

No he bangs loudly on the wall when I shower late , he also imitates my cats and makes loud chair ahreching noises any time it meows

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 week ago

It sounds like this is a case of two noisy neighbours hating each other's noise, lol

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

If he is below put your phone alarm really loud and on vibrate and under a bowl and or pot and let it ring.

Do it every time hes an asshole. Also do it at 4am so if he wakes at 5 he's losing that hour of sleep.

That or the ol frozen piss disc under the door 😄

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

What is this piss disc.. you speak of . I am intrigued

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Step 1 piss

Step 2 freeze it

Step 3 ???

Step 4 Profit

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I will pee in a plate and freeze it. thank you for the excellent idea.

Also I would like to purchase some fart spray. He is a dumb idiot and leaves his crap in the common area which is a fire hazard. I want to disfigure it.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

Don't retaliate, it will only escalate. Use your grown up voice and mention the slamming wakes you up.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I always suggest finding a peaceful solution. Maybe a convo and a beer could fix the issue.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Go to bed early ( only psychopaths go to bed late, prowling the streets for their victims ) and wake up at 5am. It is the most peaceful time to get things done.

Who tf wants to stay up late and be miserable when it’s dark outside

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Waking up at 5am is so fucking miserable and psychotic , especially when you're not forced to

Who tf wants to wake up when it's dark outside

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

Best bet is police reports. Stack enough of them, someone has to do something. if this is apartment related.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago
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