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I know, this is Actually Infuriating, but ... Also she didn't just leave the now-dead kid in the car, she left two in there to die, but one survived. My guess: with brain damage. "Always Beautiful Medical Spa" FFS. Duck lips were totally worth it.

A baby died after his mother left him and his 2-year-old sibling inside a car while she was getting lip filler at a Bakersfield medical spa on a 101-degree day, authorities said.

It is estimated that Hernandez’s children were in the vehicle without air-conditioning for 90 minutes, wrote Det. Kyle McNabb, noting that the internal temperature of a car can rise to a blistering 143 degrees in just one hour of 100-degree weather.

Hernandez told police she found her baby foaming at the mouth and having an apparent seizure after emerging from her procedure at Always Beautiful Medical Spa, according to the police report. She frantically dialed 911, and both her children were transported to a hospital for treatment.

By the time her 1-year-old arrived at Adventist Health hospital, he wasn’t breathing, had no pulse, his lips were blue, and he had an internal body temperature of 107.2 degrees

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 hours ago

Update: https://www.turnto23.com/news/in-your-neighborhood/bakersfield/witness-attorney-speak-out-following-hearing-on-hot-car-death-case

The approach the defense attorney seems to be taking is interesting. Seems to be leaning heavily on a "she's just a kid, doesn't have an adult brain yet" assertion.

Ian Bleu, who was inside the spa with his dog and a friend at the time of the incident, said Hernandez mentioned having children but never disclosed they were in the vehicle outside. Bleu described a calm atmosphere inside the business until an employee discovered one of the children in distress.

“The kid, it was like, sweating — red, purple — like, it was real bad,” Bleu said. “And then Maya walked in with the other kid and he was just, like, limp.”

Bleu told police and emergency responders that he had walked his dog near Maya’s vehicle and saw no signs that the air conditioning was running or that the windows were down, contradicting statements Hernandez reportedly made to authorities.

He also said she appeared emotionally detached as emergency crews attempted to revive the children. “She didn’t even look like she cared,” Bleu said. “We were about to cry, and the cops thought we were the parents.”

Hernandez’s defense attorney Teryl D. Wakeman urged the public not to rush to judgment, emphasizing that her client is only 20 and that the legal process is still in its early stages.

“She’s barely 20. And a charge is not a fact — it’s a charge,” the attorney said. “You would want someone to look into all the aspects of the case — medical, mental health, background — before deciding.”

Wakeman also suggested the case reflects a broader issue with how young adults are treated in the justice system, arguing that brain development continues into a person's mid-20s.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's amazing how lethal cars are and we drive them every day without a care in the world. I never think about the particulate pollution spewing from my brakes or the noxious gases emitted from the exhaust. I don't consider the pedestrians I will eventually hit if I drive long enough. I never think about anyone dying in my car from heatstroke. I think of my vehicle as the best and only solution to all of my transportation needs because every problem looks like a nail when your only tool is a hammer.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

go back to fuckcars. the rest of the world has shit to do.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Is this woman crazy? What kind of sane person would leave their kid alone in a car for two hours, especially in this heat?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

If you'd read the article it would make a little more sense to you.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

However, her 2022 Toyota Corolla Hybrid is equipped with an automatic feature that turns the engine off if it has been left running for one hour while in park, police said. Police estimate that the engine turned off around 3 p.m. and the children were left without air conditioning until Hernandez returned around 4:30 p.m.>

Looks like she left the car on and it shut itself off. Still inexcusably stupid, but it wasn't quite as brain dead as just deciding to leave them in a hot car in the middle of summer.

Her child died because of her stupidity and the over-engineering of the 2022 Toyota Corolla. c/fuckcars

[–] [email protected] 43 points 2 days ago (3 children)

yes, but.. you're telling me that she left a 1 yo and a 2 yo alone for 2,5 hours? forget the car and the weather. You shouldnt do that ANYWHERE. I wouldn't have left my kid alone for 2,5 minutes at that age.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

Not a parent, but I couldn't imagine leaving an infant unattended for that amount of time, let alone in a car in a parking lot somewhere. I'm by no means excusing it, but things are fucked and every day the world seems to be getting dumber. I'm picking at the scraps of intelligence I can. Like yeah, she was dumb, but at least she THOUGHT there was AC in the car.

Idk man, things ain't great and Im trying to find the humanity. It's getting tougher to do.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Our grand parents did this kind of stuff all the time. Kids were allowed to roam free in forests for hours. Weirdly if she'd left the kids in a forest they probably would be fine.

A lot of the danger comes from car infrastructure. Parking lots might as well be the surface of mercury on a hot day with almost no shade. Traffic poses a lethal hazard to kids. Almost all shade is removed on purpose in public urban areas lest god forbid homeless people decide to hang out at a covered rest stop. And don't even think of letting kids wander around shops or commercial areas.

Not saying this lady did anything right but society has to own up to its role in making urban areas hostile to children.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

my kid would have killed himself climbing up a ledge at that age. a 5 yo maybe, but i would need a source for your claim of 1 yos being left alone for hours in the forest

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[–] RedditRefugee69 2 points 1 day ago (3 children)

There's no way your grandparents left their kids to roam the forest as infants for hours.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Its a twofold problem its not just "grandpa played in the forest as a small child" its also:

"people now work and run errands much further from their house in environments very hostile to children. As such monitoring children has become vastly more complicated than much of human historu.

[–] RedditRefugee69 1 points 19 hours ago

That's all well and good, but nobody's setting their infants loose in the forest for hours. You made up a story to add strength to your point and all it did was make you look ridiculous.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Papa always said not to ask why he doesn't like gingerbread

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

Right??! This was a 1 year old and a 2 year old for Pete’s sake!

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Or if it's my one year old, 2.5 seconds and she's getting into something she's not supposed to.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 days ago (1 children)

And honestly, the vehicle engineers are partly to blame for this in my opinion. Are you telling me there are no sensors in the car to let you know if there is a person in the seat so that their stupid little seatbelt not fasten chimes can ring? If they can tell that there's a person inside, or that there is still a seatbelt buckled, DON'T TURN THE AC OFF AUTOMATICALLY

[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 days ago (1 children)

@Pyr_Pressure @TheLoneMinon Cars are seeming to forget who is in charge.
I've a mate who's just dropped over 100k on a brand new LandCruiser and deliberately went for not the top-spec because it has too many "safety" features. And he's still finding things like it won't drive if a door is open - so no leaning out to reverse his towed caravan. Lane departure assist is ridiculously aggressive (and actually dangerous when towing a big caravan). Dog on the back seats sets the seatbelt alarms off. And way too much other stuff. Some of it can be disabled permanently with the aid of an ODB dongle.
Car makers need to just stop.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 days ago

I had to drive a new Toyota Tacoma for a biology job. I needed to drive it in "offroad" conditions, which means there was grass over 12" in height (farm field).

It would automatically slam on the brakes and scare the shit out of me every time I tried to reverse and it thought the grass was something I was going to hit.

Drove me absolutely insane.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I do not condon leaving children alone in a vehicle for ANY amount of time...

But I also absolutely despise vehicle manufacturers thinking their unnecessary "features" are in any way needed at all, especially in a form which cannot be disabled or needs to be disabled after each time the vehicle turns off and then on.

Fucking hate vehicle manufacturer engineers. Probably one of the least needed jobs out there.

VEHICLES ALREADY HAVE EVERYTHING THEY NEED, STOP ADDING SHIT EVERY YEAR JUST FOR THE SAKE OF ADDING SHIT.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

Well what do you want them to do, increase fuel efficiency??

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago

Reading news like this always breaks my heart because I can't imagine the kid's suffering before they died. Hugging my little ones a little tighter today 😓

[–] [email protected] 22 points 2 days ago (4 children)

I don't understand how someone makes the logical leaps they do in these kinds of cases. Even from a purely selfish stand point, the risk of exactly what happened and the fallout are just not worth it to make that appointment right then and there or just have the kids sit in the lobby.

I must be losing my grip on reality, trying to reason why someone that thinks this way does the things they do.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

if you can afford lip filler, you can afford in a babysitter instead of put their lives at risk, just my 2 cents....

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago

Just get a baby sitter for 2 hours... Assuming it's really that critical (which obviously this was not...)

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[–] [email protected] 143 points 3 days ago (10 children)

She has pleaded not guilty to all charges and is being held in lieu of $1,080,000 bail,

My initial thought for this was "How do you plea Not Guilty willfully leaving two children in a car for 90 minutes." but then I found this later on

However, her 2022 Toyota Corolla Hybrid is equipped with an automatic feature that turns the engine off if it has been left running for one hour while in park, police said. Police estimate that the engine turned off around 3 p.m. and the children were left without air conditioning until Hernandez returned around 4:30 p.m.

Still super shitty, but also I think change the tone a little. Her expectation was that the car was going to be climate controlled for the procedure. Still stupid of her, and kids shouldn't be left alone that long, but it defo let me understand the "not guilty" plea

[–] [email protected] 124 points 3 days ago (26 children)

She she parked at about 2, car turned off at about 3, she came back at about 4.30. She left a 1 year old and a 2 year old alone in public for 2.5 hours.

[–] [email protected] 70 points 3 days ago

Exactly. Even if it was 68F outside, it's still extreme negligence.

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 2 days ago (4 children)

Unfortunately this is a pretty common occurrence. There was a big furor about it about a decade ago with a social media fad called the "hot car challenge" where adults would sit in hot cars turned off in the sun to see how long they could last in them ostensibly to build awareness of the problem, and there were all sorts of helpful tips and design changes made to cars and phones to try to make it more difficult to forget your kids in hot cars. Myself I wonder if any of it had any actual impact because surely the sort of people who leave their kids in hot cars aren't the smartest and probably don't keep up with safety PSAs about the issue.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (11 children)

The left shoe trick - throwing my shoe in the car next to the kid - probably saved my kid's life more than once.

One kind of parents who have these tragedies are tired ones. Which is most parents with small children.

Edit: not relevant in this case, but I'll take any chance to advertise the shoe trick.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I've been fucking tired as all hell, but a) I would not be driving a car with my child in it if I was so tired that I would forget I had a child. The fuck? That's it. There's no b). I would also fall asleep before I would forget I had a child. I cannot believe people really need a "trick" to help them remember they have a child. I just cannot relate.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago (5 children)

a) I would not be driving a car with my child in it if I was so tired that I would forget I had a child. The fuck?

I hope you're thankful for a lifestyle where you have that option. We should all strive to build a world where everyone does.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago (3 children)

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/magazine/fatal-distraction-forgetting-a-child-in-thebackseat-of-a-car-is-a-horrifying-mistake-is-it-a-crime/2014/06/16/8ae0fe3a-f580-11e3-a3a5-42be35962a52_story.html

This article is worth a read. I think that anyone who says "I could NEVER...." are the exact people that are playing with fire. I don't have children, but I still get anxiety thinking about what would happen if I did and any number of variables came up at the wrong moment in time.

This is not an attack on you. This article really helped me understand a situation where it isn't some irresponsible person just leaving their kids alone for hours to get Botox assuming the car will stay on and cool. Humans are humans, and it's sickening and devastating to think about how a simple mistake, a hiccup in the brain, could lead to the death of your own child.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Setting aside the ethics and children for a bit, I am disturbed by the idea of leaving a car running on a battery for an hour or longer. That is a good way to run down the battery and needing a AAA towing. Alternatively, leaving the engine on would use up gas. Plus, just general wear and tear on the vehicle.

Cars are expensive enough as it is.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

Coming in as a close second after the death of one child and the endangerment of the other: wearing down the car battery.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago

This, too, is c/fuckcars.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (4 children)

One of my more controversial views is that having children should require a permit, like adoption currently requires, you'd need proof that you are able and willing to raise a child in the environment they deserve to be raised in.

Yes I realize what the downsides would be.

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