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I am straight, so i'd have to first have sex with a woman to figure out if i dont like it, THEN try with a dude to see if thats better.

Now you need to try bottoming to see if you don't like that. Maybe what you hate is being the top 🤷🏻‍♂️

Although... having a disappointing hookup with some rando doesn't sound not gay.

An ex (casual) once told me about her ex that "He needed to suck enough dicks to realize that it wasn't for him." A little on the crass side, maybe, but she wasn't judging him for it and it's perfectly valid. We've only got one life to live and not experimenting with one's sexuality, if so inclined, is kinda silly.

This is logical and healthy imo. To be straight does not have to mean absolutely hating any sort of gay sex, just not being into it. I think that society makes as believe that straight means the absolute opposite of gay, when really all sexual preferences are one big spectrum and you can be a straight man who is willing to try gay things but not enjoying them.

Logical enough. I did nearly the same thing.

Hooked up with a couple. Was more attracted to the girlfriend even though boyfriend was more enthusiastic and attentive in bed.

I'm lesbian.

I would argue your sexuality isn't necessarily something you already were when you were born and you have to figure out, i would say words like gay and straight are words to describe other what you desire and what you don't desire. If you're curious and haven't decided which words fit, just take more time and try more things. On the other hand, if you now figured something out you can now have words to describe what you do and do not want in life.

Stinky? Try again with a good bottom who does their prep work first.

I’ve read all of the comments, at this point, and absolutely no one is actually replying to the question OOP posed. It’s impossible to get a straight answer out of any of you.

As someone who has done a similar experiment (though only making out) I feel like this guy is gayer than myself because I don’t think I could stay turned on or motivated enough to fuck a dude effectively, even a very fem one.

That being said I feel like gay is supposed to mean “attracted to other men” not “not-overtly-repulsed by sex with another man”

There are asexual people who can and do still have sex because they aren’t sex repulsed. Those people are still asexuals, just like asexuals who are sex repulsed are asexuals.

It’s less about what you do and more about why you’re doing it that makes it gay. Are you attracted to other men? No? Then I guess it’s not necessarily gay.

How you know this is legit: if he'd been talking about any dating app other than grindr step 6 would look like 'wait 6 weeks to get a match, get ghosted, get depressed, go to bed mumbling about 'who needs sex anyway?'.

If I snap my fingers, you will forget that you were ever gay...

Gay people often have straight sex when they are unsure about their sexuality. As society becomes less homophobic I'd expect more straight guys to experiment with other guys.

I think it's valid either way. "I'm not attracted to men, thus I'm straight" is as valid as "tried it, didn't like it, thus I'm straight"

And works the other way around too, I imagine many people who define themselves gay have had romantic or sexual experiences with the opposite sex, but didn't like it.

I support your journey wherever it takes you.

If a man does anything that's not approved by the strict regulation of the council of his male friends then they are gay. Its simple, there is no need to over complicate it by introducing sex.